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It is the scariest month of the year, so I thought that it’s only fitting that we dive into our deepest, darkest fears. Let’s be honest, we all have them. I’ve got them. You’ve got them. We all have our things that keep us up at night. A few of mine, I’m sure you can relate to them, are, “This is stupid. Nobody is going to watch my videos. You should just quit now. Nobody cares.” My other fears are letting my family down and going bankrupt. I have every fear in the buck, and I think we all can feel that sometimes. I wanted to do this video because I have a few ways that I learned to cope with those kinds of fears over the last almost decade of running my own business and they’re pretty effective. I figured I might as well share them in this video.
Tip #1: Embrace the fear and actually say it out loud. I know that sounds scary but it helps and this is why – the moment that you get it out of your head, you realize that that’s kind of the only place it lives. I have all these fears, but to you guys, you might be sitting there thinking, “What the hell is she afraid of? Things seem to be going just fine.” I’d probably think the same about you because, from the outside perspective, you’re doing just fine and you are doing just fine. If you embrace those fears, and you say them out loud, and verbalize them, it lifts the weight off of your shoulders, and it allows you to take action on whatever it is that’s making you feel anxious and create some actionable steps to combat those fears.
Even better than that, find a friend, a mentor, someone that you trust wholeheartedly and tell them. Just phone them and say, “Hey, I need to talk to you. I need to tell you what I’m going through right now, and what I’m feeling right now.” They are sure to say to you, “You’re doing just fine and here’s how I can help, or here’s what you can do to, again, combat those fears.” Embrace them. If you’re having fears, it’s actually a great sign because if you’re just living a mediocre life, there’s nothing to be afraid of. If you’re living a big life and out of your comfort zone, there’s going to be a lot of fears that pop up but it’s exciting. You got to just deal with them and push through.
Tip #2: Stick to your vision and, quite literally, having a vision board or having a list of things that you know you want to have in your life. When I say vision, how do you want your business to look a year from now and how do you want people to perceive your business a year from now. That’s what you’re working towards. If you have it detailed and written out, you can review it every morning. I look at my vision every single morning because it’s literally Kryptonite for fears because it makes it real what you’re working towards and nothing will stop you from getting there if you can see it and visualize it every single day. Make sure that you have that vision aligned. It doesn’t have to be perfect.
A little tip that someone told me when I was a little younger. They said, “You don’t have to have a vision of every single detail physically what your life is going to look like, but how do you want to feel.” I knew that I wanted to have a business where I would feel a lot of freedom in my business and that’s what I’ve achieved. Think about how you want to feel. It doesn’t have to be perfect but have at least a vision that you can look at every single day as a reminder that you’re going to get there and these fears won’t stop you.
Tip #3: Squad up. Find your crew and love them hard. Basically what I mean by this is find mentors. The great thing is the online space … I’m sure a lot of you probably consider me a mentor even though we’ve never met in real life, and I have a lot of mentors online that I’ve never met in real life, but I follow their advice. I watch their tutorials. I read their blogs and they provided me with game changers for my business. Find your tribe. Find them online and also find them in real life. Maybe there’s someone who’s created a business that you admire and you want to work towards. Reach out to them and see if perhaps you can find some time that works with their schedule to set up a quick call with them.
Tip #4: Walk away. Put down the computer. Put down the phone and walk away. Even if it’s just five minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes out of your day, get outside, or if you live in a place that’s really cold, just go and take a walk around your apartment and put down all electronics and technology because that’s so overwhelming for your brain if you don’t give yourself a little breather. I try and get myself a break every single day. I’ll go and exercise or I’ll just go and read. Just get a little breather from the business, emails, work, things that are coming in. Social media just gets really overwhelming.
Tip #5: Say this a million times if you have to. This is my go-to phrase. It’s my motto. I always say this to myself, especially when I’m feeling overwhelmed, and anxious, and a little afraid of the future. I say, “Why the hell not? Why not me? Why not now? Why can’t I do what I want to do?” A great thing to look at when you’re feeling overwhelmed and you’re paralyzed by it, look at other people who are doing what you want to do. It’s possible. If they can do it, why the hell can’t you? That’s a great way to get out of that mindset of like, “My god, it’s never going to happen. I can’t do it.” Other people have before you, and you’re going to do it, and you’re going to do it better and bigger than anybody else out there because you’re going to do it in your own way.
All right. I hope this video helped you guys. Let me know what you think. If you need to say your fears out loud, like I said, put them in the comment section below. Let’s all support each other through those fears and anxieties about having your own business because they can be serious sometimes. If you want a community of thousands of other entrepreneurs from all over the world that are feeling the same way that you’re feeling and helping one another grow, join us in the Be Your Own Boss mastermind group on Facebook. The link to join is below this video. If you like this video, hit the like button below, share it with your friends and be sure to subscribe. I’ll see you guys in the next episode!
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